Does my ex still love me?
Does he still love you, and does it change what you do next?
Does he still love you, and does it change what you do next?
Love does not switch off when a relationship ends, which is exactly why this question is so painful. People leave someone they still love. People stay with someone they stopped loving years ago. So the answer to this, whatever it turns out to be, will not decide anything on its own. It is still worth knowing, because you have been carrying a question with no shape, and a question with a shape is much lighter.
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Think of the last time you were in the same room. What was in his face?
- Something unfinished
- Sadness, and no argument left in it
- Warmth, the kind you give an old friend
- Politeness, and a wish to be elsewhere
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Think of the last time you were in the same room. What was in his face?
- Something unfinished
- Sadness, and no argument left in it
- Warmth, the kind you give an old friend
- Politeness, and a wish to be elsewhere
What did he do with the things that were yours?
- Kept some. You both know he did
- Returned everything, carefully
- Returned everything, quickly
- It was handled between you without any fuss
When he talks about the relationship, what tense does he use?
- Present, sometimes, and then corrects himself
- Past, and with real tenderness
- Past, and slightly rewritten in his favor
- Past, and kindly, with no charge in it
Does he still know your ordinary life?
- Yes. He knows what is happening this month
- Some of it, at a distance
- He knows the old version and asks about that
- No, and he has not asked
What happened on the last date that meant something to you both?
- He was in touch, and it was not casual
- He was in touch, briefly, and it was kind
- Nothing
- Something that made it about him
Imagine him hearing that you are happy. What do you picture?
- Relief, and a bit of ache
- Genuine gladness for you
- A wound, quickly hidden
- Nothing much. He would take it in and move on
Has he said anything at all, since it ended, about how he feels?
- Yes, and it was hard to hear because it was honest
- Yes, and it left the door visibly open
- Something that sounded loving and did not survive contact with reality
- Nothing directly, but he has been kind
When you are calm, not at two in the morning, what do you believe?
- That he loves me and it will not be enough
- That he loves me and neither of us has said it
- That he loves the version of me that existed then
- That we care about each other, and it has changed shape
What does he do when you go quiet for a while?
- Comes back within a week or two
- Stays away, and it clearly costs him
- Reappears when he needs something from the past
- Nothing in particular. The quiet is fine between you
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