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Relationship or situationship?

Are you in a relationship, or in a situationship that feels like one?

9 questions 2 minutes

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Are you in a relationship, or in a situationship that feels like one?

There is a difference between not knowing where you stand and not being allowed to ask. Most people in this position can tell you exactly what is happening and still cannot name it, because naming it makes it real and real things can end. So this quiz stays on solid ground: not what he means, not what it might become, only what happens on ordinary days. Nine questions. Then one honest word for where you actually are.

2 minutes · 9 questions

the questions in this quiz

  1. Do his friends know your name?

    • Yes, and they have affectionate opinions about you
    • Yes, though nobody has ever said out loud what you are
    • Some of them do. It has never been formal
    • You have met almost none of them

  2. What happens on a random Wednesday?

    • Something ordinary. Food, a series, nothing planned
    • You text through the day and see each other when it works
    • Usually nothing, and then suddenly it is Friday night
    • Nothing. Wednesdays are not part of this

  3. Has the word we been used about anything in the future?

    • Yes, about things that have dates on them
    • Yes, in passing, and neither of you made it a moment
    • Once, and it got softened almost immediately
    • No

  4. You get flu and cannot get off the sofa.

    • He comes over, or offers to, and brings something
    • He checks in properly, from a distance
    • He is sympathetic by message and you do not see him
    • He would not know it had happened

  5. Do you know whether he is seeing anyone else?

    • Yes. The answer is no, and it was said out loud
    • You are fairly sure, though the conversation never happened
    • You have decided not to ask
    • You assume he is, and you try not to think about it

  6. How does he refer to you when other people are in the room?

    • With the word you would use yourself
    • By your name, warmly, with no label attached
    • As a friend, and something in your chest drops
    • It has not come up, because that has not happened

  7. After a really good weekend together, what follows?

    • Ordinary contact, no gap, nothing to decode
    • A lovely message, and then normal life
    • Two quiet days, and you notice both of them
    • Silence, and then something at eleven at night

  8. If you asked him to define this, what do you honestly predict?

    • He would be glad you brought it up
    • He would agree, and be surprised it needed saying
    • He would go vague, kindly
    • He would pull back

  9. What do you say when your friends ask what he is to you?

    • His name, and the word
    • "We're together. We just haven't done the announcement"
    • "It's complicated. But it's good"
    • "I genuinely don't know anymore"

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