You have been collecting evidence, I think, the way people do when the question matters and the answer has not been said out loud, and you have come looking for a list of signs he loves you to hold the evidence against. I will give you one, because some of the signs are real and worth knowing, and then I will tell you honestly what a list can do and what it cannot.
The signs I trust are the ones that would be hard to produce by accident and expensive to fake for long. They are less romantic than the ones that get shared around, and they live in the days rather than in the words, which is the whole point of them.
The signs he loves you that hold up
I wrote about signs he likes you a while ago, and liking, in that piece, came down to attention: memory, effort, being brought into the edges of his life. Loving is a different list, and the difference is mostly about tense and cost. Liking is about this week. Loving shows in what he does with next spring, and in what it costs him on a Tuesday when you are not being easy to love.
So the signs he loves you that I would take seriously start with the small rearrangement of his life around you that nobody announced. Your mug is at the front of his cupboard now, the loud restaurant has quietly dropped out of the rotation, and the Sunday call with your mother has become something he plans around rather than something he is surprised by. None of these was a gesture, which is exactly why they count.
The tense he uses
Listen to his verbs, because people give themselves away in tense long before they say anything with the word love in it. Somebody who is in this for the long stretch talks about the winter, and about the wedding in June that you have both been invited to, and about the apartment with the bigger kitchen, and you are in those sentences without being asked to be, as a matter of course rather than as a promise.
The opposite is also worth noticing, and I say it gently. A future that keeps being described in the singular, or one that ends at the next weekend, is information. It does not tell you what he feels, and I would not read it as a verdict. It tells you what he is planning for, which is a thing you can see with your own eyes and ask him about in plain words.
What he does after he gets it wrong
Everyone gets it wrong. The sign is not in the getting it wrong, it is in the twenty minutes afterward and the two days after that. A man who comes back into the kitchen and says the sentence, I was unfair about Tuesday, and then is a little different on the following Tuesday, is showing you something that cannot be performed for long, because repair is boring and it has to be repeated.
I would also watch whether he lets you see him at a loss. Saying I do not know in front of somebody, or being ordinary and tired rather than impressive, is a kind of trust that people mostly save for somebody they expect to still be there next month. It is one of the least flattering signs on this list and one of the ones I would take most seriously.
How he talks about you in the next room
You will overhear it at some point, on the phone to his brother or in the hallway with a friend who has asked how things are going. The tone he uses about you when he does not know you can hear is worth more than a great deal of what he says to your face, because nothing about it is for you. Warmth in that voice, and a version of you in it that you would recognize, are things I would write down.
I would also notice whether he is the same person in company as he is alone with you. I do not mean identical, since nobody is, but continuous enough that you would recognize him in both rooms. The man who is attentive in the kitchen and careless at the dinner party, or the reverse, is telling you something about who the attentiveness is for, and I do not mean that unkindly, only that it is observable.
The paragraph a list cannot replace
Here is the honest part, and I would rather say it plainly than dress it up. A list of signs he loves you can tell you what you have seen. It cannot tell you what he feels, and neither can I, and neither can a card, whatever the sites with a percentage on them say. Every sign above is compatible with a man who loves you and also, in the wrong combination, with a man who is kind, comfortable and not sure, and no amount of counting will tell you which one you are looking at.
What settles it is the sentence, said by him, in daylight, and then the months after the sentence, in which the days either agree with it or do not. If you have been reading signs for a long time, the reading itself is worth noticing, because people who feel loved do not usually need to audit it. That is not a criticism, it is a question about what has been missing, and it is a fair one to put to him. The does he love me page is written for exactly that moment, and it does not pretend to see further than it can.
What is worth doing tonight
Tonight, write down three things he did this month that he did not know you noticed. I do not mean the flowers or the message, I mean the small unadvertised things: the mug, the call he planned around, the sentence after the argument. Then look at the list rather than at the gaps in it, and decide whether what you are holding is evidence or a question. If it is evidence, you can put the list down. If it is a question, I have written about how to ask it, and it is shorter than you think.
Come back and tell me what made the list, and what did not.
Clara