This question tends to arrive early, before anything has been named, when there has been enough warmth to hope on and not enough to rest on. You have been reading him for a couple of weeks now, the reply times, the way he said goodnight on Tuesday and not on Thursday, and you are here because the reading has not settled anything. We want to say first that the wondering is not silly, and that how does he feel about me is one of the hardest questions to carry around a working day.
Then the honest part, once: feelings are not visible from outside, not to a deck and not to us. What a card can read is what he does, as anybody standing near the two of you could see it, and what you have been doing with the gaps, which is the half of this that is yours to change.
What this reading is looking at
The reading below deals the love spread, which is three cards: you, as you are standing in this; him, only as far as his actions can be seen from outside; and the space between you as it currently stands. The middle card is read for behavior, the things he has done and said, and it stops there. You will not get a sentence that starts by telling you his feelings, because that sentence is where a reading turns into a story somebody made up for you.
The space between is the card people underrate here, because at the start of something it is mostly made of what has not been said yet, and that is readable.
What would you like to look at
Pick the shape that fits the question. You can change your mind at any point before you draw.
Before we start
Twenty seconds, feet on the floor, hand somewhere warm. Breathe in while the circle grows and out while it settles. You can skip this whenever you like.
What is on your mind
In your own words, as much or as little as you like. You can leave it empty and simply draw.
Your cards
Laying them out now.
Clara
Same cards, one more look.
Did this land?
For self-reflection and entertainment. Not a substitute for medical, legal or financial advice. 18+.
How does he feel about me, and what a card can reach
Other sites will hand you a percentage or a paragraph about his heart, and it will feel like relief for about a day. We would rather be plain. The only instrument that reads a person’s feelings is the person, asked directly, and everything else is inference dressed up as sight.
The word really, when it turns up in this question, is worth noticing on its own. People ask how he really feels when they have already been given one version and are hoping a card will overrule it, and a card cannot overrule a person, only describe the reader’s side of the doubt.
Mixed signals are a signal
It goes warm on Saturday and distant by Wednesday, a long message and then two days of nothing, and from the inside that feels like a code, so the natural response is to work harder at cracking it. From the outside it is not a code at all, it is a pattern, and the pattern says something plain about consistency without saying anything about why.
What that pattern does on your side is the part worth reading. Unpredictable warmth keeps a person attentive in a way that steady warmth does not, which is how attention works in everybody and says nothing about his intentions, and it is why you have been checking your phone more this month than you did last month. The does he like me quiz walks through what has actually happened between you, without asking you to guess at anything behind it.
What these draws keep landing on
Most draws for how does he feel about me turn toward the reader’s own withholding. Somebody who is trying to work out how a man feels has usually been careful not to show much of their own hand, and the cards keep landing on that: the message rewritten four times to sound lighter, the plan not suggested in case it looked like too much.
The Knight of Cups is the card everybody wants in the middle seat, a rider on a white horse holding out a cup, and he is worth reading carefully, because he is a picture of an offer being made rather than a report on anybody’s feelings. Very often, read honestly, he is the offer you have not made yet. If the question has been going on for months rather than weeks, does he love me is the page for that longer kind of waiting, and what is he thinking covers the particular week when he has gone quiet.
What to do before you draw again
Separate what he did from what you hoped it meant, on paper, because the two have been stored in the same place for weeks and they are not the same size. The first list is usually shorter and plainer than the second, and seeing that is not a defeat. It is the beginning of a question you could actually put to him.
You are allowed to want to know, and you are allowed to be the one who says something first. Come back whenever the reading of him gets loud again, and if what happened in the meantime was nothing, that is also an answer of a kind.
Questions people ask
Can tarot tell me how he really feels about me?
No. Feelings are not visible from outside, not to a deck and not to us, and the word really in that question is usually a sign that you have already been given one version and are hoping for another. What a reading can do is look at his behavior as anybody could see it, and at what you have been doing with the gaps.
Which card shows his feelings?
None of them. The Knight of Cups gets treated as a man with feelings on his way to you, and the Page of Cups as a message coming, and both are pictures of an approach in general rather than a report on one particular person. A card that showed a person’s feelings would be worth more than the deck it came in, and it does not exist.
He is warm one week and distant the next. What does that mean?
We cannot tell you what it means on his side, but we can say what it does on yours, which is keep you attentive in a way that steady warmth would not. The pattern is worth naming to yourself plainly, and then it is worth asking him one plain question in daylight rather than reading the next two weeks for clues.