The Hermit as feelings: what it says about how they feel

The Hermit as feelings is easy to misread as rejection. He stands alone on a snowy peak with a lantern, and if you asked how someone feels, it can look as though he is walking away. Usually he is not. The Hermit describes someone who needs to be alone with their feelings before they can share them.

That is frustrating if you are waiting for an answer, and it is also a sign of seriousness. People do not go quiet and inward over things that do not matter to them.

The Hermit as feelings, upright

Upright, the Hermit as feelings points to reflection. They may feel something real for you and want to understand it before they act, or they may be in a season of their life where they are pulling back from everyone, not only from you. It can describe a cautious person, someone who was hurt before, or someone who simply moves slowly. The lantern in his hand holds a star: the Hermit is looking for the truth of something, by his own light and at his own pace.

The Hermit reversed as feelings

Reversed, the Hermit as feelings can mean withdrawal that has gone on too long: isolation, avoidance, or loneliness they will not admit to. It can also mean the opposite, someone coming out of a quiet stretch and ready to reach out again. If they have been distant and you drew the Hermit reversed, a message may be closer than it looks.

The Hermit as how someone sees you

As how someone sees you, the Hermit suggests they see you as someone wise, private or a little hard to reach, or as a person they want to take seriously. You may be connected in their mind with depth rather than fun, which is not a bad thing to be.

The Hermit as feelings from an ex

From an ex, the Hermit as feelings usually means they are processing the end in private. They may think about the relationship a great deal and say nothing. It is not a card of quick reconciliation; if anything comes back, it comes after a long quiet.

The Hermit next to other cards

Next to the Star, the Hermit describes healing that happens in quiet first; see the Hermit and the Star. With the Four of Cups, interest is there but withdrawn. Beside the Two of Cups, someone private is slowly opening up.

What to do with this card

Give space, and use it. Do not chase a Hermit; they only walk further up the mountain. Send one honest, low pressure message if you need to, and then spend the waiting on your own life. The Hermit is also a card for you: what do you feel, when you are not watching your phone?

Ask the cards your own question

One card is one reading of one moment. If you would like to ask about a particular person, the free love reading lets you put the question in your own words first, and it will be honest about what the cards can and cannot see from the outside.

Questions people ask

Does the Hermit as feelings mean they are not interested?

Not usually. It means they are inward and cautious. Interest that is slow is still interest, though it may never be loud.

How long does a Hermit phase last?

There is no timing in the card. In practice it lasts as long as the person needs, and pushing usually makes it longer.

Is the Hermit a yes or no?

Closer to not yet than to no. It asks for patience, and for honesty about whether you are willing to give it.