There are two versions of this question and they need different answers. One comes from someone with nobody in particular in mind, asking whether it is ever going to happen. The other comes from someone who has been with the same person for six years and has stopped bringing it up.
Neither version can be answered by a card, because a wedding takes two decisions and the cards can only reach one of them. What follows is honest about that, and still worth the ten minutes.
What the cards can see here
The spread below reads where you are, him as far as anybody can honestly see from outside, and the space the two of you have built. The middle card is about what he does rather than what he privately wants, because that is the only part of another person a card can reach.
What would you like to look at
Pick the shape that fits the question. You can change your mind at any point before you draw.
Before we start
Twenty seconds, feet on the floor, hand somewhere warm. Breathe in while the circle grows and out while it settles. You can skip this whenever you like.
What is on your mind
In your own words, as much or as little as you like. You can leave it empty and simply draw.
Your cards
Laying them out now.
Clara
Same cards, one more look.
Did this land?
For self-reflection and entertainment. Not a substitute for medical, legal or financial advice. 18+.
The part we will not do
We will not predict a proposal, a year, or a season. That is not caution for its own sake. Someone who is told the spring looks promising will spend a spring waiting, and springs are not free.
What we will say plainly is that in the long relationships, this question has usually been asked in hints for a long time. Hints are how people ask for something without risking the answer. They also give the other person a permanent excuse not to have heard.
What tends to come out
Often the reading turns toward what marriage is standing for. For some people it is the security of being chosen out loud, in front of witnesses. For others it is a way of settling a question about whether this is really it, and a wedding is a very expensive way to settle that.
The Four of Wands page is a good companion here, because it is about the moment of arrival and how much ordinary work sits behind it. If you are asking the first version of the question, with nobody in mind, will I find love was written for that evening instead.
The conversation people are actually avoiding
In the long relationships this question is almost never about whether it will happen. It is about whether to raise it again, having raised it twice already and watched it slide off the table both times.
What usually helps is dropping the hint format entirely. Hints let a person ask without risking an answer, and they give the other person a permanent excuse not to have heard, which is how the same conversation can run for three years without anybody lying.
The plain version is short and horrible and takes about a minute. I want to be married, I would like to know whether you want that too, and I would like to know roughly when. That is not an ultimatum. It is a question with edges.
If you are the one who is not sure
Sometimes the person asking is the one holding it up, and the guilt makes the question hard to look at. That is worth reading for on its own, and the honest place to start is what you are waiting to feel, and whether it is something that arrives or something that gets decided.
One number in the open
Get one number in the open, at least on paper: by when, in what kind of shape, and what happens if that comes and goes. You do not have to deliver an ultimatum to know your own answer, and knowing it changes the way you sit in the conversation.
Whatever you want here, wanting it is not too much, and saying so out loud is not a threat.
Questions people ask
Will I ever get married?
There is no honest way for a card to answer that. What a reading can do is get clear about whether you want it, why, and what you are waiting for, which is the part that has been fuzzy for a lot of people who ask.
Is there a card that means a proposal?
The Four of Wands gets read that way because it shows a celebration under a canopy. It is about arrival and welcome in general, and pinning an engagement on it is the kind of guess that gets remembered when it lands and forgotten when it does not.
We have been together years and nothing has moved. What now?
Then the question is probably not about the cards. It is about whether the conversation has actually been had in plain words with a timeline in it, and most couples in this position have had it in hints.