This question arrives at a specific hour. For most people it is somewhere between nine and midnight, and for a lot of people it is the exact time he used to message, which the body remembers long after the reason has gone.
I cannot tell you whether he is thinking about you. Nobody can, and I would be doing you a disservice if I dressed a guess up as a reading. What I can do is talk about what is probably going on, in general terms, and about the hour itself, which is the part that is actually yours.
The honest answer, given once
Almost certainly he thinks about you sometimes, in the way people think about anyone who used to be in their daily life, and almost certainly less consistently than you are thinking about him right now.
That is not a cruelty. It is arithmetic. The person who did not choose the silence tends to spend more time in it, because it is a problem they did not agree to and their mind keeps trying to solve it.
Why you keep asking anyway
Because the question is not really about his thoughts. It is about whether you mattered, and whether the last two years were what you thought they were, and those are questions with real weight in them.
Asking whether he is thinking about you is a way of asking whether it counted. And it did count, whatever he is doing on a Thursday, because you were there for it.
What limerence has to do with it
There is a word for the state of being consumed by thoughts of one person, and it is worth knowing because it is startlingly precise. Limerence describes an involuntary, intrusive preoccupation with somebody, with a lot of mental rehearsal in it and a strong pull toward any sign of reciprocation.
The important detail is the word involuntary. People in this state are not indulging. They are not weak willed. The thoughts arrive uninvited, and the more uncertain the situation, the more of them arrive, because uncertainty is the fuel.
Which means the silence itself is doing a large part of this to you. If he messaged tomorrow with something dull and definite, a lot of it would drop away within a week, and it would not be because your feelings were fake.
The hour
Here is the practical part, and I think it is the useful one.
Find the hour. Most people know it as soon as they are asked: the walk from the bus, the last stretch before sleep, the moment the front door closes and the flat is quiet. That hour is not haunted. It is empty, and empty hours are where an unfinished thing moves in.
So put something in it that has a beginning and an end. A walk to a specific corner and back. A phone call to a friend who talks more than you do. A shower at a strange time. Not to distract yourself from your feelings, which does not work and is not the goal, but to stop leaving the same window open at the same time every night.
People who do this report the same thing after a couple of weeks, which is that the question still comes, and it comes with less room to expand into.
What not to do with the question
Do not go looking for evidence. The checking of who has viewed what, the reading of a mutual friend’s story for a background detail, the deciding what a profile picture change means. It gives you a hit of information and about four hours of analysis, and the ratio is terrible.
And I would gently avoid the sites that offer to tell you what he is feeling right now, with a percentage. That number is invented. The hope it starts is not.
What the no contact advice gets wrong
Most of it is written as though the other person is a lock and you are looking for the right key. Thirty days, sixty days, a particular kind of message on day thirty one, and an implied promise that doing it correctly produces a result.
That framing is what turns a rest into a strategy, and a strategy has a scoreboard. It is also why so many people describe day twenty nine as unbearable, because it is not a period of recovery at all, it is a countdown toward a moment when something is supposed to happen.
Take the promise out and keep only the silence, and most people say it gets easier within two weeks. That is a fairly good test of what the promise was doing.
What is actually knowable
You can know what you want. You can know whether you would take him back on exactly the old terms, which is a question worth answering properly on paper, because a surprising number of people find out they would not.
You can know how you are sleeping, and whether you have eaten today, and who you have not replied to in three weeks because you have not had it in you. Those are small and they are yours and they respond to attention, which is more than the original question can say.
If you want a reading instead of an article
The page for this one is is he thinking about me, and it draws a single card, deliberately, because this question does not need ten.
Whatever he is doing tonight, you get to decide what happens in your hour. That is not everything, and it is not nothing either.