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Exes and no contact

When someone leaves, the questions arrive in a particular order. Does he think about me. Does he still have feelings. Will he come back. These pieces answer each one as honestly as I can, including the parts that are hard to hear, and none of them pretends a card can make someone return.

If you are in no contact, start with the day by day guide. It is the one people come back to most, because the first thirty days are where it all feels impossible, and where most of the good work quietly happens.

9 pieces, newest first

The newest piece Exes and no contact

Does my ex still have feelings for me?

Why the evidence never settles this question, what feelings and intentions have to do with each other, and how to read the still on your own side honestly.

6 min read

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Two coffee cups on a cafe table, one empty chair pushed back, autumn leaves drifting past the window outside, soft watercolour illustration

Does my ex hate me?

Why this question is usually guilt wearing a different coat, what can be repaired with one plain sentence, and what was never yours to…

6 min read
A woman seen from behind gazing out of a train window at a passing pink dusk landscape, soft watercolour illustration

Does my ex think about me?

Nobody can tell you whether your ex thinks about you, and I will not pretend to. What I can read is the thinking on…

6 min read
A white wooden gate standing ajar with a path of rose petals leading into a twilight garden, soft watercolour illustration

Does my ex want me back?

Mixed signals from an ex, what they usually mean and do not mean, and the question you can actually answer tonight: what you want,…

6 min read
A wooden rope swing hanging still beneath a great oak tree in a quiet meadow at sunset, soft watercolour illustration

Will he come back if I leave him alone?

Nobody can tell you whether he will come back if you leave him alone. What the phrase leaves out, and what leaving him alone…

5 min read
A lighthouse glowing over a calm pink sea with a small boat on the horizon, soft watercolour illustration

Will he come back after no contact?

An honest look at what no contact does and does not do, why the silence is so loud, and what to do with the…

6 min read
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