The journal

Heart and mind

Some weeks the question is not about anyone else. It is am I good enough, or will I ever feel happy again, or why can't I stop thinking about someone who barely thinks of me. These pieces sit with those questions gently and honestly, with what psychology actually knows about attachment and limerence alongside the cards.

If a low stretch has gone on for weeks, or it is getting in the way of eating, sleeping or work, please talk to a doctor as well. The cards can keep you company. They are not a substitute for care.

4 pieces, newest first

The newest piece Heart and mind

Am I good enough?

Am I good enough is a habit more than a question. Here is who you are imagining as the judge, why the test never ends, and what to do with it today.

6 min read

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Sunlight breaking through clouds over a meadow of wildflowers, a small figure seen from behind walking into the light, soft watercolour illustration

Will I ever be happy again?

A careful answer to will I ever be happy again: when the low weeks need a doctor, and the small true things that come…

6 min read
Two porcelain teacups tied together with a loose silk ribbon on a lace tablecloth, soft watercolour illustration

Attachment styles explained, kindly

Where attachment styles came from, what the four patterns look like in an ordinary week, why the label is not a personality, and what…

5 min read
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